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Til Death Do Us Part

This story about a New Jersey transgender couple worried about the status of their legal marriage reminds me of the days when I regularly contemplated gender determinism in the Church of Christ. I wanted very much to believe that someday, somewhere a congregation would need to respond to a transgender man who would want to serve communion and lead singing and, vice versa, to a transgender woman who refused to relinquish her public role at the front of the sanctuary. To wrestle with the question would be just desserts, I thought, for all those years spent hiding behind legalism and willful misconstruings of the incredible splendor of humanity.

I would still be interested to know if anything like that has happened, but I no longer hold my breath for it. I mean, what man who knows himself well enough to have gone through gender reassignment surgery, what woman who knows herself likewise, would still want to remain in a faith community as unreflective as the Church of Christ? No one that I can imagine. But people always surprise me, so who knows?

 

Comments

Short answer: yes.

FOUL! I want names, dates, and circumstances!!! Barring names and dates, tell the story anonymously!

For follow-up: there’s a COC in LA with which I’m very familiar that is, ahem, facing this very issue right now. I’d say more, but I’d rather not in this venue.

You know my e-mail address, homes.

Yeah, yeah, OK. This—

I mean, what man who knows himself well enough to have gone through gender reassignment surgery, what woman who knows herself likewise, would still want to remain in a faith community as unreflective as the Church of Christ?

—is hopelessly naive.

It’s coming I’m sure. More and more C of C’s are accepting and allowing participation from openly gay members. Anyway I say that to say if anyone reading this is transgender and wants a church home, you’re more than welcome to come to my church which is closely tied to the C of C.

I’ve often contemplated the irony that a sex change operation would make me more hireable at my alma mater than my PhD…but “gender genie” and this blog’s motto notwithstanding, I really like being a woman.

Oh, and I second Steven’s invite!

Speaking of transgendering, did you catch yesterday’s All Things Considered? The story about the transgender 10yo is riveting.